Sunday, November 25, 2012


"Ang tunay na lalaki ay marunong maghintay." Such brave words and an unexpected response from a modern teenager as viewed in a television commercial of a well known noodle product. No wonder the proud parents are all smiles as they partake the meal before them. Despite all the conveniences and easy access to everything including premarital sex, it is heartening to know that there are still those who value human dignity and respect for oneself and for others.

How do you describe a young Filipina Lady? To borrow the lines from a famous old Filipino Folk Song written by Jose Corazon de Jesus...

"Ang Dalagang Pilipina" 

"Ang dalagang Pilipina, parang tala sa umaga
 Kung tanawin ay nakaliligaya
 May ningning na tangi at dakilang ganda
 Maging sa ugali, maging kumilos
 mayumi, mahinhin, mabini ang lahat ng ayos
 Malinis ang puso maging sa pag-irog
 may tibay at tining ng loob."

"Bulaklak na tanging marilag, ang bango
 ay humahalimuyak
 Sa mundo'y dakilang panghiyas,
 pang-aliw sa pusong may hirap.
 Batis ng ligaya at galak, hantungan ng
 madlang pangarap.
 Iyan ang dalagang Pilipina, karapat-dapat
 sa isang tunay na pagsinta."

I wouldn't be surprised if some parents would raise their eyebrows or even admonish their kids when they see such topic as sexual awareness being read online. One of the reasons I wanted to discuss such a controversial topic among teenagers stems from an inquiry my best friend had about his teenager son who has a young girl friend. Another eye opener for me was when I met a nineteen year old girl who contracted a sexually transmitted disease caused by the Human Papilloma Virus (HPV) at a very young age. She had her first sexual experience at 15 years old with a 40 year old married seaman. Lest you think that it only happens in Manila, think again, the lady hails from Mindanao and is the youngest in a brood of 12 children but whose parents are involved in a religious cult.

How can we help our youth so that they will learn how to wait?

Allow me to quote some Scriptures from the greatest book ever written, i.e., the HOLY BIBLE, which has all the answers to the questions we seek especially regarding sexuality.


"This is the will of God, your holiness: that you refrain from immorality, that each of you know how
to acquire a wife for himself in holiness and honor, not in lustful passion as do the Gentiles who do not know God; not to take advantage of or exploit a brother in this matter, for the Lord is an avenger in all these things, as we told you before and solemnly affirmed. For God did not call us to impurity but to holiness. Therfore, whoever disregards this, disregards not a human being but God, who [also] gives his Holy Spirit to you."
                                                                1 Thessalonians 4:3-8

"...The body, however, is not for immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord is for the body, God raised the Lord and will also raise us by his power. Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take Christ's members and make them the members of a prostitute? Of course not! [Or] do you not know that anyone who joins himself to a prostitute becomes one body with her? For "the two, " it says, " will become one flesh." But whoever is joined to the Lord becomes one spirit with him. Avoid immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the immoral person sins against his own body. DO you not kow that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God, and that you are not your own? For you have been purchased at a price. Therefore, glorify God in your body."
                                                                1 Corinthians 6:13-20

In the book "boy meets girl" written by Joshua Harris, a best selling author and the senior pastor of Covenant Life Church in Gaithersburg, Maryland, he enumerated practical ways on how boys can be men and girls can be ladies. He said that men should have the following qualities, namely: 
1. Assume the responsibility of leading and initiating in their relationships with women.
2. Be a spiritual leader in their relationships with women.
3. Do little things in their relationships with women that communicate their care, respect, and desire to protect.
4. Encourage women to embrace godly femininity.
Whereas, the women should posses the following traits:
1. Encourage and make room for men to practice servant leadership in their relationships with godly men.
2. Be a sister to the men in their life.
3. Cultivate the attitude that motherhood is a noble and fulfilling calling.
4. Cultivate godliness and inward beauty in their life.

Fr. Adolf Faroni, SDB, in his book entitled, "How to Love for Teenagers and above", wrote "THE TEN COMMANDMENTS FOR A MODERN GIRL", namely:
1. Observe moderation in the use of cosmetics. If you use make-up, do so sparingly.
2. Exercise moderation also in the sphere of amusements, in order to allow yourself time to pursue other interesting hobbies like music, embroidery,sketching, and the like.
3. Don't patronize places like bars, where unseemly steps and poses are tolerated, or where there is no kind of supervision, or where intoxicating drink is sold. Use discretion in your choice of partners.
4.Don't stay out late at night except on special occasions and with the consent of your parents or
5. Listen with respect to the good advice of your elders.
6. Don't accept jewelry or expensive gifts from men friends.
7. Go without, rather than borrow money. Don't spend beyond your means.
8. Don't allow yourself to be picked up by any smartlooking "Romeo" who happens to come into your line of vision.
9. Don't have a boy friend just because other girls have one.
10. Remember that the best and holiest of souls cannot remain virtuous without the help of Divine
...If you are prudent with your power of attraction.
...If, by your behavior, you give value to others.
...If you know which is the door where temptation can come easily to you and avoid it.

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